How to slowly improve your life

We all want to create the best possibility reality for ourselves. We live our lives as best we can, making the most of what we have, while naturally and instinctively watching and learning from other people and finding inspiration in their choices. The trap is where we compare ourselves to others and see something we want, but for some reason feel that we can’t have it.

Blue Moon by Leonid Afremov

Blue Moon by Leonid Afremov – View on Etsy

The other day I watched a health vlog by a gorgeous Australian lady who was fiercly advocating activity, raw foods and salads, morning smoothies; the lot. I envied her active lifestyle – living in small-town Australia, with daily walks through beautiful forest paths right on her doorstep, followed by a dip in the ocean on a sandy beach somewhere where the sun always shines – while I’m sitting in a small tenth-floor apartment in a rough area of cold and rainy London.

I thought if only I lived there, I would surely be just as active and healthy all the time!

But then I immediately remembered that we create the circumstances – we can’t wait around for them to happen.  I don’t have to live in sunny Australia in order to live that kind of active lifestyle. I have woods a busride away, beautiful London parks and stunning Thames river walks; and while I can’t just pop down for an ocean swim, I could always go to the local outdoor swimming pool.

That’s when I realised the most important question we have to ask ourselves when we come across something which we long for, something we feel envious over – How can I apply it to my life?

Words carry immense power, and an efficiently and positively posed question will always produce useful answers.

Similarly, a few years ago I was living in an apartment where I had no altar (my previous altar had been in my countryside residence). I kept wishing and wanting, imagining the garden I would have one day where I could build a great, big stone-table altar, and I kept thinking, that’s when it will happen, I just have to wait until that day comes.  But that’s wishful and time-wasting thinking, and one day it hit me that I should just create my altar anyway, just put together what I can, city flat or not. After all, we create our lives HERE AND NOW. So I did, and it’s great! And by having and using my city altar now, I am aligned with the energies of enjoying my altar, thus aligning with a future of having an even better altar.  Change and improvements always happen incrementally, and we have to start somewhere, right?

Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves and wishing our circumstances were different, just ask ourselves, how can I bring this into my life, as it stands today?  How can I apply this to my situation?

Anything is possible, if only we are willing to start somewhere.

Blessings, until next time,


Immediate Centering

I talk a lot about centering and the importance of being centered.  When you’re not centered, you have your mind and energy focused outside of yourself and your body – in the past or future, or in someone else’s thoughts and opinions.  It will make you feel anxious, irritable, restless, and easily affected by outside influences.

"Embrace Light" by Light Worker Energy Art

“Embrace Light” by Light Worker Energy Art

The centering exercise in my book, “The Essence of Magick,” requires a little bit of time and focus, but what if you are out in public and suddenly feel yourself becoming anxious or stressed, and you need to center yourself immediately?

One day I was out walking, and suddenly an embarrassing memory popped into my head, and my stomach automatically turned to knots and I began hunching and feeling uncomfortable.

Then I remembered that, if a thought makes me feel uncomfortable, I don’t have to think about it!  So I just said to myself, “I’m right here.”  It brought me straight back into the present, into my body and my mind, and everything old and negative quickly retreated.

The power of those three words startled me, and I began using them frequently, whenever I felt outside myself, anxious about something, worrying about pleasing other people, etc.  “I’m right here.”  It sucks me back into the present moment, and in the present, there is nothing that can’t be dealt with.

If you’re ever feeling on edge, worrying about something, focusing on something outside of your immediate surroundings which is bringing you discomfort, just say those three words – “I’m right here” – and feel your mind and soul uniting immediately in your body; present and at peace.

I just wanted to share that with you all, and I hope it will help you as much as it has me!

Love & blessings,