How to slowly improve your life

We all want to create the best possibility reality for ourselves. We live our lives as best we can, making the most of what we have, while naturally and instinctively watching and learning from other people and finding inspiration in their choices. The trap is where we compare ourselves to others and see something we want, but for some reason feel that we can’t have it.

Blue Moon by Leonid Afremov

Blue Moon by Leonid Afremov – View on Etsy

The other day I watched a health vlog by a gorgeous Australian lady who was fiercly advocating activity, raw foods and salads, morning smoothies; the lot. I envied her active lifestyle – living in small-town Australia, with daily walks through beautiful forest paths right on her doorstep, followed by a dip in the ocean on a sandy beach somewhere where the sun always shines – while I’m sitting in a small tenth-floor apartment in a rough area of cold and rainy London.

I thought if only I lived there, I would surely be just as active and healthy all the time!

But then I immediately remembered that we create the circumstances – we can’t wait around for them to happen.  I don’t have to live in sunny Australia in order to live that kind of active lifestyle. I have woods a busride away, beautiful London parks and stunning Thames river walks; and while I can’t just pop down for an ocean swim, I could always go to the local outdoor swimming pool.

That’s when I realised the most important question we have to ask ourselves when we come across something which we long for, something we feel envious over – How can I apply it to my life?

Words carry immense power, and an efficiently and positively posed question will always produce useful answers.

Similarly, a few years ago I was living in an apartment where I had no altar (my previous altar had been in my countryside residence). I kept wishing and wanting, imagining the garden I would have one day where I could build a great, big stone-table altar, and I kept thinking, that’s when it will happen, I just have to wait until that day comes.  But that’s wishful and time-wasting thinking, and one day it hit me that I should just create my altar anyway, just put together what I can, city flat or not. After all, we create our lives HERE AND NOW. So I did, and it’s great! And by having and using my city altar now, I am aligned with the energies of enjoying my altar, thus aligning with a future of having an even better altar.  Change and improvements always happen incrementally, and we have to start somewhere, right?

Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves and wishing our circumstances were different, just ask ourselves, how can I bring this into my life, as it stands today?  How can I apply this to my situation?

Anything is possible, if only we are willing to start somewhere.

Blessings, until next time,


9 thoughts on “How to slowly improve your life

  1. Hi please contact me, I would love to talk to you about magick and sorcery. My name is Angel and my email is I couldn’t find a way to contact you directly so I hope you read this.

    • Hi Angel, sure I’ll email you, but otherwise people can contact me through Facebook or the contact form on the blog 🙂 BB ~ Amaris

  2. Hi, I’m Tara and I am a starting Wiccan. I need to perform the exorcism Latin prayer on a friend. I don’t know if I’m strong enough to do it. Please contact me at

  3. Patricia Spedding mc menamin

    I believe that I am a very old soul. The way my viisions were in the past caused me to make a decision to block then with chemicals. Having been down that road and that didn’t block them it only numb me to them. Now that my seasons have matured me, the visions I am still experienceing are far more complex. I need the guidance of an elder. Perhaps you can tell me how to find a book or someone who will be able to read what is in me. I haven’t been very successful at allowing people that have young souls to help because it seems they drain me. I just need to touch, with one who guides. If this makes sense, I have so many people looking to me for answers when most of the time I don’t have a clue.

  4. Hi Patricia and Amaris,

    I felt like you were writing my words. I am also going through the same thing.


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