How to slowly improve your life

We all want to create the best possibility reality for ourselves. We live our lives as best we can, making the most of what we have, while naturally and instinctively watching and learning from other people and finding inspiration in their choices. The trap is where we compare ourselves to others and see something we want, but for some reason feel that we can’t have it.

Blue Moon by Leonid Afremov

Blue Moon by Leonid Afremov – View on Etsy

The other day I watched a health vlog by a gorgeous Australian lady who was fiercly advocating activity, raw foods and salads, morning smoothies; the lot. I envied her active lifestyle – living in small-town Australia, with daily walks through beautiful forest paths right on her doorstep, followed by a dip in the ocean on a sandy beach somewhere where the sun always shines – while I’m sitting in a small tenth-floor apartment in a rough area of cold and rainy London.

I thought if only I lived there, I would surely be just as active and healthy all the time!

But then I immediately remembered that we create the circumstances – we can’t wait around for them to happen.  I don’t have to live in sunny Australia in order to live that kind of active lifestyle. I have woods a busride away, beautiful London parks and stunning Thames river walks; and while I can’t just pop down for an ocean swim, I could always go to the local outdoor swimming pool.

That’s when I realised the most important question we have to ask ourselves when we come across something which we long for, something we feel envious over – How can I apply it to my life?

Words carry immense power, and an efficiently and positively posed question will always produce useful answers.

Similarly, a few years ago I was living in an apartment where I had no altar (my previous altar had been in my countryside residence). I kept wishing and wanting, imagining the garden I would have one day where I could build a great, big stone-table altar, and I kept thinking, that’s when it will happen, I just have to wait until that day comes.  But that’s wishful and time-wasting thinking, and one day it hit me that I should just create my altar anyway, just put together what I can, city flat or not. After all, we create our lives HERE AND NOW. So I did, and it’s great! And by having and using my city altar now, I am aligned with the energies of enjoying my altar, thus aligning with a future of having an even better altar.  Change and improvements always happen incrementally, and we have to start somewhere, right?

Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves and wishing our circumstances were different, just ask ourselves, how can I bring this into my life, as it stands today?  How can I apply this to my situation?

Anything is possible, if only we are willing to start somewhere.

Blessings, until next time,


Why spells backfire

Bea has cast a spell which seems to have backfired on her. She lost a tenant and created a protection jar for the house and future tenant which was meant to absorb negativity and protect the house.  But after the casting, things went downhill, and Bea lost her other tenant and ended up in financial and legal troubles. 

Bea says: “While I chanted the spell I thought about all the negative energy, guilt, etc… and asked for this jar to suck up the bad and lower energies from the past and protect from any future and keep away people with bad energies. MY QUESTION: Did I do something wrong?”

Hi Bea,

When you cast, in order to attract the best results, you should think only about what you want, not what you don’t want.  I understand the theory behind asking the jar to suck up the negative energies, but it sounds like you focused too much on the bad stuff, with fear and worry about the future.  For that kind of spell I would instead suggest that you create a ‘positive energy jar’ or ‘light jar’, which you charge with positivity, joy, good fortune and such.  You could put in it any items that to you represent good fortune, and also gemstones and/or orgonite that promote a happy home, a stable income, etc.  Also colours – the colour blue is good for a peaceful home; green is for a good income, for example.casting spells

While charging it, you focus solely on what kind of tenant you want (i.e. no thoughts towards what you don’t want, or anything bad that has already happened), how you want to feel when you have that tenant living in the house, how good it feels to have enough money, and so on. This visualisation will also help further if it carries on in your mind also after you’ve cast the spell – i.e. whenever you think about the house, remind yourself of that happy image and the feelings you had during the visualisation.

You might want to try it again, if you are able to dig up the jar and start over.  Don’t worry about the spell you cast before or any negativity that would come of it, because your mind is incredibly powerful and can fundamentally affect your life, so just start shifting your focus straightaway towards positive things, any little thing that has actually worked out; anything you can feel thankful for.  And create a good fortune jar if you want to speed things along.

Blessed Be,